If there are two things that you can never be prepared about, it is Twins! No matter what you plan, or how much you want to ‘be ready’, you can never be enough prepared to manage twins. My initial time after delivering twins was very difficult, more so because there is very limited literature, help or even experience related to birthing, feeding and raising twins. Compiling here today is a list of things that I wish someone told me about before the twins arrived in this world.
As per the law in India, you cannot know the gender of your unborn baby/babies. Other aspects aside, but it builds up a lot of suspense and excitement for the mother. Multiply that excitement 100 times to know what an expectant mom of twins goes through! The permutation combinations of what gender babies would you have, what you expect, and what all the passer by and immediate family predict – and the actual gender reveal of the babies at birth – it is quite an overwhelming experience. Somehow it is always a little unexpected, because somewhere you have thought of and planned for all kinds of gender pairings possible! So, while singleton baby parents think of a boy and a girl, a twin parent thinks of b/b, b/g, gg twins and a lot of other what ifs
By now, if you have been a mother even once, you know that among the first things that happen as a mom, is utter confusion. The baby is born but you have absolutely no clue what to do with it. That, paired with a lot of their medication, visiting friends and relatives and what not – create so much of chaos and confusion in your mind that it is unbelievable. In the initial 2-3 days when you are in the hospital, you will still have helping nurses. But when you get back home and the twins must be managed completely by you, it is crazy! it makes you overwhelming and scary and does take quite a bit of time to settle.
With new born twins that poop, pee and spill a lot, especially born in the winter season, you will end up washing way too many clothes than you can count. Deal with it, it happens.
There is just no way that you can anyway be prepared about giving medicines. Giving medicines to new born twins can be one of the most difficult yet underestimated issues. As a mom of twins, I often used to sit down and cry because even doing a simple task as this seemed difficult and unmanageable. Hang in their mommy, it is happening with all moms!
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No matter what kind of diapers, nappies or underwear you are using for your new born twins, initially they pee and poo so much that you change about 6-8 pieces per child per day. At one point in time it will seem like you just don’t have enough time to deal with the needs of each child. Having someone to help is essential, but even if you cannot find any help, just don’t doubt yourself.
The feeding session of the twins can be one of the most overwhelming experiences of new born twins. Are they hungry? Are they sleepy? or May be they are tired? Do they have an earache? A stomach ache? Is their clothing bothering them? Is the diaper full? some other issue that I can’t identify? It is crazy how much little twins cry. It’s like they cry and cry and cry and they’re very few moments when they are quiet and playful. Ideally one thinks that if they cry, you feed them, and things get sorted but that’s never the case with the twins!
It is even more difficult if you are feeding them formula. Always having formula in stock, having boiled water in stock, constant deep cleaning if every micro-centimeter of their feeding bottles, having to check temperatures, making formula, discarding the left over immediately, there are just so sooo many steps to it! Add to it the constant mandate of washing hands.
It is very common to feel panicky and jittery in the initial days. It is probable that you may also be suffering from depression (post-partum) or other physical difficulties due to delivery. Raising twins in such a scenario is a very difficult task and here are some pointers that can help you sail through:
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I truly hope that these tips help you sail through the journey of parenting twins. It is an overwhelming experience but there’s nothing a Mom cannot do!!
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